Only If ..... You loved me back !!

Wellah! I'm back.. with another hot topic of discussion. And this time I'm sure that Kanta Aunty / Gannu Bhaiya can not provide any advise on this one !!

At some point of time each one of us have faced the stress of falling in love or having a crush on someone who is unattainable - he / she is a movie star or married or already in a relationship or simply not interested. Honestly, I've gone through this so many times now that I think there is something wrong with me !! Thanx to Gannu bhaiya for his approach with God Ji that I get over these quickly.

There are many people who really cant get over it as quickly as I do. Take the case of our Haalla's daughter; Kaalini Haalla. Everything was fine till the time she covered the wall's of her room with Bollywood Dude - John Abraham (who himself feels like a meat shop). She replaced bips with herself in all the pictures & started the 16 Somvaar (Monday) ka fast with an hope to please our Gannu Bhaiya's dad. Finally, when after 16 Monday's John forgot to land on the terrace of her appartments in Delhi; She ran to Mumbai with our Shammu Kaka's (the milkman's)grandson to rescue him from Bips in person.

Fortunately, not every tale is as dramatic as Miss. Kaalini Haalla's. Many of us get depressed with an hope to get over the person of our desire. however, it is not as difficult as it appears to be. The key to getting over this stress is to accept that you are in love with someone who can not reciprocate your feelings. Enjoy this feeling as far as it is healthy but dont let it reach a point where you have to slit your nerves or run from your home to get the person.

Understand that it is not essential to get the one you love. Rather love at times means letting go.

Dont follow that person like a shadow or keep calling him / her. Rather give him / her the freedom to decide if they want to communicate with you.

Pick up new hobbies - Swimming, Reading, Dancing anything as far as it keeps you busy but dont lock yourself up in your room as it would make the condition worse.

Never avoid your feelings howsoever painful they are "Face Them"

Make new friends / Go out with old ones

Dont blame yourself for anything that is not in your hands

I had a huge crush on Mr. X who initially was a good friend but the day I told this Mr. X about my feelings. He stopped calling up, picking my calls, replying my messages and became totally passive. This is where I decided that I need to be less active to help him decide if he wants to communicate with me. Today, we still know each other he does pick my calls and replies my SMS (though he always act Mr. Pricey); I do get irriated and feel like banging his head on the wall but then I have adjusted to the fact that "He wants to be a lone wolf"

Always remember - "It is just a state of mind". What you think / feel about the person does not bind him / her to adhere to your desires."

Peace,
Agony Aunt :P