Legalisation of Same Sex Marriages by High Court on July 02, 2009 certainly got me some pride for my blog that is now almost 3 years old .... (Please read - At InstaBlogs). I had received a handful of comments from people who supported or outright rejected my idea of granting the minority groups their "Human Rights". Someone also quoted the section 377 of IPC way back then communicating that it is un-natural.
"Section 377 (Unnatural offences): Whoever voluntarily has carnal intercourse against the order of nature with any man, woman or animal, shall be punished with imprisonment for life, or with imprisonment of either description for term which may extend to ten years, and shall also be liable to fine."
It was the time when I came to know that America had legalised Gay & Lesbian marriages; I reckon wondering - "Why is the situation so grave in India? ... Can't they be granted their rights to a peaceful life?" ....
And today .... I feel so good that the efforts of some many activities to support the oppressed minority groups have paid. Though the mindset of the general public still has to change a lot to accept such relationships in Indian society.
Not sure how many of us are aware but the Article 377 actually violates the Article 21 of constitution that says - "Every citizen has equal opportunity of life and is equal before law".
Irrespective of what the sexual preferences of the individual are ... every individual must have the rights to exercise his or her decisions in his or her life. We are no one to dictate terms on "How others should live".
Earlier people in these relationships earlier could not support each other due to legal issues. Consider this situation at hospital, one of the partner's has met an serious accident that needs and immediate operation or else he / she might die.
At the reception the other partner is handed over a document for signature. The document says that hospital would not be responsible for your partner's death while operating (this is just a legal formality). They only people who could sign this particular document are - parents or spouse.
Here the partner stands with a document in his / her hand that has to be signed before the operation could begin. But, he / she cant sign it . Why? Answer is simple he / she is neither the parent nor a spouse legally ... ?
THINKING ABOUT THE OTHER SUCH SITUATIONS THAT THEY MIGHT FACE ON DAY TO DAY BASIS .... I FEEL THIS IS A BOON TO OUR SOCIETY.
On December 28, 2006 a reader from SPAIN commented on my blog ...
"Well ... I am in a same sex marriage and I just don’t understand the whole fuss about it. I am human and I should have the same right like anyone. I am not hurting anyone or take rights from someone else.Gay people are not second class humans! "
CONGRATULATIONS TO THE LGBT'S FOR GETTING THEIR DUE !! ....
Jul 5, 2009
Jun 16, 2009
Oh ! frisky ...
This one goes out to my darling doggie frisky - someone who can not be trained to live life sensibly (but that is what makes him so adorable too).
Meet frisky our 4 year old mixed breed, who changed my life ever since he joined our family. With him around you can never imagine what comes the very next moment.
After a long long day, I would generally want to go off to sleep but thanks to my best friend who is there to jump over my bed the moment I get into it. I get up trying to understand what happened and just when I am too tiered to even extend my hand to garb a pillow he would get one of his toys and would give one of those ever challenging looks as if too say - "Hey! have the guts to snatch this??"
Howsoever, hard I try to explain I am really tiered and definitely extremely sleepy. He would not stop jumping over my legs until I actually go through a marathon trying to get that toy from him. If I am able to take it from him quickly and go off to bed; the poor guys face would drop (as if saying "Oh! come on you cheater! Try another round and see me beat you !!)
Think of the devil and he appears .... !! No .. nah .. no frisky ... frisky stop ... damn it's the delete button of my laptop ..... no please dnt eat the alphabets on my keyboard ... you dumb dog!!
Howsoever, hard I try to explain I am really tiered and definitely extremely sleepy. He would not stop jumping over my legs until I actually go through a marathon trying to get that toy from him. If I am able to take it from him quickly and go off to bed; the poor guys face would drop (as if saying "Oh! come on you cheater! Try another round and see me beat you !!)
Think of the devil and he appears .... !! No .. nah .. no frisky ... frisky stop ... damn it's the delete button of my laptop ..... no please dnt eat the alphabets on my keyboard ... you dumb dog!!
I'll catch you guyz soon .... first I have to catch hold of him !! ...
May 25, 2009
MOBILE O PHRENIA
Oh my googlie coo's !! I am so sorry for not keeping in touch all these days. Actually, i had been accessing the globe on the mini-screen (mah mobile). This left me disconnected to all of my near and dear ones. Lots of timez I thot about writing to you all but then my work schedule left me no time to catch up with you all.
Honestly I have become the member of "Mobile-O-Phrenix" group. Typically characteristics of these people are as follows:
Checking there mobile screens every few minutes to ensure they have not missed any important email / sms / call
Tend to ignore the real human beings around them by giving more importance to their mobile screens
During discussions their attention span would be inter-mitten
Mobiles become and extension of their body
Every second of the day is spend either looking at screen / typing an sms / reading an sms / browsing GPRS / replying calls
In short, all these people (including me) think about is the life inside their mobile phones. Mobile phones are inevitable part of their lives.
They show withdrawal symptoms if their mobile phone is taken away for the shortest span of time (say 30 mins)
यार हम पहले भी तोह मोबाइल के बिना रहते थे ना । फिर अब क्या हुआ ??
I recently recognised that I was suffering with these symptoms when I met one of my friends over coffee। While he was trying to talk and catch up on lost time I was looking at my mobile screen taking account of the time and replying to my messages. He stopped over for a while and said - "Can't you see I am trying to strike a converstation here."
Honestly, I was so embarrased that I immediately thought of making a बाहाना and running away from that place. And you know guys itz getting worse -
When I am free I hav dis urge of sending a quick message to anyone in my list jst to strike a conversation
If that sum1 doesnt reply back in stipulated time frame of 30 seconds then I get irritated... think गर्रर! ख़ुद को समझता क्या है । भाव खा राहा है । अब कभी message नही करूंगी ।
I become so desparate without mah phone -
Most of all I need it while I am sleeping. I get up at night and look at my mobile screen to check any late night messages !! Oh Gannu bhaiya ... save me I have got "Mobile-O-Phrenia".
Honestly I have become the member of "Mobile-O-Phrenix" group. Typically characteristics of these people are as follows:
In short, all these people (including me) think about is the life inside their mobile phones. Mobile phones are inevitable part of their lives.
They show withdrawal symptoms if their mobile phone is taken away for the shortest span of time (say 30 mins)
यार हम पहले भी तोह मोबाइल के बिना रहते थे ना । फिर अब क्या हुआ ??
I recently recognised that I was suffering with these symptoms when I met one of my friends over coffee। While he was trying to talk and catch up on lost time I was looking at my mobile screen taking account of the time and replying to my messages. He stopped over for a while and said - "Can't you see I am trying to strike a converstation here."
Honestly, I was so embarrased that I immediately thought of making a बाहाना and running away from that place. And you know guys itz getting worse -
- I need it while reading
- While watching TV
- While working
Most of all I need it while I am sleeping. I get up at night and look at my mobile screen to check any late night messages !! Oh Gannu bhaiya ... save me I have got "Mobile-O-Phrenia".
Apr 26, 2009
Only If ..... You loved me back !!
Wellah! I'm back.. with another hot topic of discussion. And this time I'm sure that Kanta Aunty / Gannu Bhaiya can not provide any advise on this one !!
At some point of time each one of us have faced the stress of falling in love or having a crush on someone who is unattainable - he / she is a movie star or married or already in a relationship or simply not interested. Honestly, I've gone through this so many times now that I think there is something wrong with me !! Thanx to Gannu bhaiya for his approach with God Ji that I get over these quickly.
There are many people who really cant get over it as quickly as I do. Take the case of our Haalla's daughter; Kaalini Haalla. Everything was fine till the time she covered the wall's of her room with Bollywood Dude - John Abraham (who himself feels like a meat shop). She replaced bips with herself in all the pictures & started the 16 Somvaar (Monday) ka fast with an hope to please our Gannu Bhaiya's dad. Finally, when after 16 Monday's John forgot to land on the terrace of her appartments in Delhi; She ran to Mumbai with our Shammu Kaka's (the milkman's)grandson to rescue him from Bips in person.
Fortunately, not every tale is as dramatic as Miss. Kaalini Haalla's. Many of us get depressed with an hope to get over the person of our desire. however, it is not as difficult as it appears to be. The key to getting over this stress is to accept that you are in love with someone who can not reciprocate your feelings. Enjoy this feeling as far as it is healthy but dont let it reach a point where you have to slit your nerves or run from your home to get the person.
Understand that it is not essential to get the one you love. Rather love at times means letting go.
Dont follow that person like a shadow or keep calling him / her. Rather give him / her the freedom to decide if they want to communicate with you.
Pick up new hobbies - Swimming, Reading, Dancing anything as far as it keeps you busy but dont lock yourself up in your room as it would make the condition worse.
Never avoid your feelings howsoever painful they are "Face Them"
Make new friends / Go out with old ones
Dont blame yourself for anything that is not in your hands
I had a huge crush on Mr. X who initially was a good friend but the day I told this Mr. X about my feelings. He stopped calling up, picking my calls, replying my messages and became totally passive. This is where I decided that I need to be less active to help him decide if he wants to communicate with me. Today, we still know each other he does pick my calls and replies my SMS (though he always act Mr. Pricey); I do get irriated and feel like banging his head on the wall but then I have adjusted to the fact that "He wants to be a lone wolf"
Always remember - "It is just a state of mind". What you think / feel about the person does not bind him / her to adhere to your desires."
Peace,
Agony Aunt :P
At some point of time each one of us have faced the stress of falling in love or having a crush on someone who is unattainable - he / she is a movie star or married or already in a relationship or simply not interested. Honestly, I've gone through this so many times now that I think there is something wrong with me !! Thanx to Gannu bhaiya for his approach with God Ji that I get over these quickly.
There are many people who really cant get over it as quickly as I do. Take the case of our Haalla's daughter; Kaalini Haalla. Everything was fine till the time she covered the wall's of her room with Bollywood Dude - John Abraham (who himself feels like a meat shop). She replaced bips with herself in all the pictures & started the 16 Somvaar (Monday) ka fast with an hope to please our Gannu Bhaiya's dad. Finally, when after 16 Monday's John forgot to land on the terrace of her appartments in Delhi; She ran to Mumbai with our Shammu Kaka's (the milkman's)grandson to rescue him from Bips in person.
Fortunately, not every tale is as dramatic as Miss. Kaalini Haalla's. Many of us get depressed with an hope to get over the person of our desire. however, it is not as difficult as it appears to be. The key to getting over this stress is to accept that you are in love with someone who can not reciprocate your feelings. Enjoy this feeling as far as it is healthy but dont let it reach a point where you have to slit your nerves or run from your home to get the person.
I had a huge crush on Mr. X who initially was a good friend but the day I told this Mr. X about my feelings. He stopped calling up, picking my calls, replying my messages and became totally passive. This is where I decided that I need to be less active to help him decide if he wants to communicate with me. Today, we still know each other he does pick my calls and replies my SMS (though he always act Mr. Pricey); I do get irriated and feel like banging his head on the wall but then I have adjusted to the fact that "He wants to be a lone wolf"
Always remember - "It is just a state of mind". What you think / feel about the person does not bind him / her to adhere to your desires."
Peace,
Agony Aunt :P
Apr 5, 2009
Working from home !!
My Dearies, I am not in the best of health while creating this post. But as you all know I am addicted to my blog & its readers like the Bee on flowers. You just cant forget them !! All the support that I receive from each one of you via the comments is cherished ... they all motivate me to live life king size (even though some people might be really jealous).
It's been almost a week I have been working out of home due to the issues with my cervical & it is still not coming back to normal. I am having fever (something I really hate). Some of my acquaintances claim working from home to be a real cool benefit that my employer provides. I always tell them that working from home is not as exciting as they might feel.
While there are benefits -
Flexibility to select one's won hours
Reduced costs (that's one of the benefits for the employer)
Reduced Travel (if you stay far away or face a lot of traffic)
There are concerns also -
One of the most important aspect of professional life that I miss is Networking. You cant meet a lot of people in your organisation and form a rapport with them. Business networking is essential so that you are aware of whom to reach in case you need help. But, you wont come to know them all sitting at home.
Loneliness is another concern for social butterflies. They can find it real difficult to work for long hours sitting in front of computer without seeing others.
Discipline is prime. When at home you tend to get distracted by a lot of things e.g. door bells, cooking, family members etc. All the minor disturbances add to your work hours. One minute of distraction takes 10 mins of re-consideration of the task you are working at. So, while at home one needs to be very disciplined about the work hours.
A lot many people tend to work 12 - 14 hours a day when working from home thereby building a lot of stress on themselves. This, finally reduces their performance. They feel they are working 12 hours a day but the results are not very good. Make a schedule that helps you DE-stress and perform at optimal level.
Do you have the right set up for the home office ??
This probably is the top most factor before considering working from home. Appropriate work area is necessary. It should be isolated (where you are not disturbed frequently). High speed Internet connection, appropriate desk etc are mandatory if you plan to work 7 - 8 hours from your home office.
Training & Skill Development is another very important area of concern. While we can advocate that trainings can be taken online but honestly some trainings are better taken in classroom environment. For such functional or behavioral trainings in person interactions are the best. Online trainings might not be that effective.
If you are working from home totally then there can be a stagnation in acquisition of new skills and trainings. You might have questions that are not resolved virtually.
It's been almost a week I have been working out of home due to the issues with my cervical & it is still not coming back to normal. I am having fever (something I really hate). Some of my acquaintances claim working from home to be a real cool benefit that my employer provides. I always tell them that working from home is not as exciting as they might feel.
While there are benefits -
There are concerns also -
A lot many people tend to work 12 - 14 hours a day when working from home thereby building a lot of stress on themselves. This, finally reduces their performance. They feel they are working 12 hours a day but the results are not very good. Make a schedule that helps you DE-stress and perform at optimal level.
This probably is the top most factor before considering working from home. Appropriate work area is necessary. It should be isolated (where you are not disturbed frequently). High speed Internet connection, appropriate desk etc are mandatory if you plan to work 7 - 8 hours from your home office.
If you are working from home totally then there can be a stagnation in acquisition of new skills and trainings. You might have questions that are not resolved virtually.
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