Two latest bollywood flicks ....

All you lovely people out there! Here comes the first hand review of the two latest movies in the town - Kaminey n Love Aaj Kal. Nopes I am not comparing the two. As always like a sniffer dog I'll scrutinize ... Mind the stars after movie name.

Love Aaj Kal **
One time watch and total paisa vasool for the amount you spend on eating popcorn. Dont expect this movie to stay in your head or heart once you get out of the theater.

According to me and my fren the movie challenges the institution of Indian marriage. In country where both men and women are taught to stick to marriages despite of biggest differences this movie educates the youth about making a decision even after marriage.

Saif has grown old and is probably a wrong selection for the movie. Ranbeer kapoor or Kunal kapoor could have suited the scene better. Saif is definitely a NO NO to play the role of 22 year old. He must act his age.

Rishi kapoor has done justice to his role and so has his sweetheart Neetu Ji.


KAMINEY ***
Nice movie. This one would stay in your memories for sometime. A mix of adrinal rush and humor.

But the movie still has its shortcomings. Too much violence for women and kids. I noticed that many women had to watch the movie with their hands on eyes. Too much action, something women can hardly sustain.

Honestly, I am not someone who would advocate an action movie. This one is an exception.

Charlies character is too good. Someone who thinks only about himself and his family (Real Kamina). A bookie who wants to make quick buck and ......

His younger brother is too sweet but at times smart. At one point when he hits charlie to rescue his GF, I was amazed (that was beyond my expectation of that character)

Sweety is someone who can put anyone in trouble and knows the art of making things her way. Her extrovert behavior in the shaadi scene took my heart away.

At regular check points you would have sequences to make you laugh like -

guddu caught in police station and asked to narrate the story in sing song way.

sweety's prior booking of pandit ji and other requisites for wedding. While guddu is still grasping the fact that he is about to be a dad.

STILL WONDERING : Y DID GUDDU ATTRACT ALL THE NUISANCE?? ANY THOUGHTS ??

Section 377 - Indian Penal Code

Legalisation of Same Sex Marriages by High Court on July 02, 2009 certainly got me some pride for my blog that is now almost 3 years old .... (Please read - At InstaBlogs). I had received a handful of comments from people who supported or outright rejected my idea of granting the minority groups their "Human Rights". Someone also quoted the section 377 of IPC way back then communicating that it is un-natural.

"Section 377 (Unnatural offences): Whoever voluntarily has carnal intercourse against the order of nature with any man, woman or animal, shall be punished with imprisonment for life, or with imprisonment of either description for term which may extend to ten years, and shall also be liable to fine."

It was the time when I came to know that America had legalised Gay & Lesbian marriages; I reckon wondering - "Why is the situation so grave in India? ... Can't they be granted their rights to a peaceful life?" ....

And today .... I feel so good that the efforts of some many activities to support the oppressed minority groups have paid. Though the mindset of the general public still has to change a lot to accept such relationships in Indian society.

Not sure how many of us are aware but the Article 377 actually violates the Article 21 of constitution that says - "Every citizen has equal opportunity of life and is equal before law".

Irrespective of what the sexual preferences of the individual are ... every individual must have the rights to exercise his or her decisions in his or her life. We are no one to dictate terms on "How others should live".

Earlier people in these relationships earlier could not support each other due to legal issues. Consider this situation at hospital, one of the partner's has met an serious accident that needs and immediate operation or else he / she might die.

At the reception the other partner is handed over a document for signature. The document says that hospital would not be responsible for your partner's death while operating (this is just a legal formality). They only people who could sign this particular document are - parents or spouse.

Here the partner stands with a document in his / her hand that has to be signed before the operation could begin. But, he / she cant sign it . Why? Answer is simple he / she is neither the parent nor a spouse legally ... ?

THINKING ABOUT THE OTHER SUCH SITUATIONS THAT THEY MIGHT FACE ON DAY TO DAY BASIS .... I FEEL THIS IS A BOON TO OUR SOCIETY.

On December 28, 2006 a reader from SPAIN commented on my blog ...

"Well ... I am in a same sex marriage and I just don’t understand the whole fuss about it. I am human and I should have the same right like anyone. I am not hurting anyone or take rights from someone else.Gay people are not second class humans! "

CONGRATULATIONS TO THE LGBT'S FOR GETTING THEIR DUE !! ....

Oh ! frisky ...

This one goes out to my darling doggie frisky - someone who can not be trained to live life sensibly (but that is what makes him so adorable too).

Meet frisky our 4 year old mixed breed, who changed my life ever since he joined our family. With him around you can never imagine what comes the very next moment.

After a long long day, I would generally want to go off to sleep but thanks to my best friend who is there to jump over my bed the moment I get into it. I get up trying to understand what happened and just when I am too tiered to even extend my hand to garb a pillow he would get one of his toys and would give one of those ever challenging looks as if too say - "Hey! have the guts to snatch this??"

Howsoever, hard I try to explain I am really tiered and definitely extremely sleepy. He would not stop jumping over my legs until I actually go through a marathon trying to get that toy from him. If I am able to take it from him quickly and go off to bed; the poor guys face would drop (as if saying "Oh! come on you cheater! Try another round and see me beat you !!)

Think of the devil and he appears .... !! No .. nah .. no frisky ... frisky stop ... damn it's the delete button of my laptop ..... no please dnt eat the alphabets on my keyboard ... you dumb dog!!

I'll catch you guyz soon .... first I have to catch hold of him !! ...

MOBILE O PHRENIA

Oh my googlie coo's !! I am so sorry for not keeping in touch all these days. Actually, i had been accessing the globe on the mini-screen (mah mobile). This left me disconnected to all of my near and dear ones. Lots of timez I thot about writing to you all but then my work schedule left me no time to catch up with you all.

Honestly I have become the member of "Mobile-O-Phrenix" group. Typically characteristics of these people are as follows:

Checking there mobile screens every few minutes to ensure they have not missed any important email / sms / call

Tend to ignore the real human beings around them by giving more importance to their mobile screens

During discussions their attention span would be inter-mitten

Mobiles become and extension of their body

Every second of the day is spend either looking at screen / typing an sms / reading an sms / browsing GPRS / replying calls

In short, all these people (including me) think about is the life inside their mobile phones. Mobile phones are inevitable part of their lives.

They show withdrawal symptoms if their mobile phone is taken away for the shortest span of time (say 30 mins)

यार हम पहले भी तोह मोबाइल के बिना रहते थे ना । फिर अब क्या हुआ ??

I recently recognised that I was suffering with these symptoms when I met one of my friends over coffee। While he was trying to talk and catch up on lost time I was looking at my mobile screen taking account of the time and replying to my messages. He stopped over for a while and said - "Can't you see I am trying to strike a converstation here."

Honestly, I was so embarrased that I immediately thought of making a बाहाना and running away from that place. And you know guys itz getting worse -

When I am free I hav dis urge of sending a quick message to anyone in my list jst to strike a conversation

If that sum1 doesnt reply back in stipulated time frame of 30 seconds then I get irritated... think गर्रर! ख़ुद को समझता क्या है । भाव खा राहा है । अब कभी message नही करूंगी ।

I become so desparate without mah phone -

1. I need it while reading
2. While watching TV
3. While working

Most of all I need it while I am sleeping. I get up at night and look at my mobile screen to check any late night messages !! Oh Gannu bhaiya ... save me I have got "Mobile-O-Phrenia".

Only If ..... You loved me back !!

Wellah! I'm back.. with another hot topic of discussion. And this time I'm sure that Kanta Aunty / Gannu Bhaiya can not provide any advise on this one !!

At some point of time each one of us have faced the stress of falling in love or having a crush on someone who is unattainable - he / she is a movie star or married or already in a relationship or simply not interested. Honestly, I've gone through this so many times now that I think there is something wrong with me !! Thanx to Gannu bhaiya for his approach with God Ji that I get over these quickly.

There are many people who really cant get over it as quickly as I do. Take the case of our Haalla's daughter; Kaalini Haalla. Everything was fine till the time she covered the wall's of her room with Bollywood Dude - John Abraham (who himself feels like a meat shop). She replaced bips with herself in all the pictures & started the 16 Somvaar (Monday) ka fast with an hope to please our Gannu Bhaiya's dad. Finally, when after 16 Monday's John forgot to land on the terrace of her appartments in Delhi; She ran to Mumbai with our Shammu Kaka's (the milkman's)grandson to rescue him from Bips in person.

Fortunately, not every tale is as dramatic as Miss. Kaalini Haalla's. Many of us get depressed with an hope to get over the person of our desire. however, it is not as difficult as it appears to be. The key to getting over this stress is to accept that you are in love with someone who can not reciprocate your feelings. Enjoy this feeling as far as it is healthy but dont let it reach a point where you have to slit your nerves or run from your home to get the person.

Understand that it is not essential to get the one you love. Rather love at times means letting go.

Dont follow that person like a shadow or keep calling him / her. Rather give him / her the freedom to decide if they want to communicate with you.

Pick up new hobbies - Swimming, Reading, Dancing anything as far as it keeps you busy but dont lock yourself up in your room as it would make the condition worse.

Never avoid your feelings howsoever painful they are "Face Them"

Make new friends / Go out with old ones

Dont blame yourself for anything that is not in your hands

I had a huge crush on Mr. X who initially was a good friend but the day I told this Mr. X about my feelings. He stopped calling up, picking my calls, replying my messages and became totally passive. This is where I decided that I need to be less active to help him decide if he wants to communicate with me. Today, we still know each other he does pick my calls and replies my SMS (though he always act Mr. Pricey); I do get irriated and feel like banging his head on the wall but then I have adjusted to the fact that "He wants to be a lone wolf"

Always remember - "It is just a state of mind". What you think / feel about the person does not bind him / her to adhere to your desires."

Peace,
Agony Aunt :P

Working from home !!

My Dearies, I am not in the best of health while creating this post. But as you all know I am addicted to my blog & its readers like the Bee on flowers. You just cant forget them !! All the support that I receive from each one of you via the comments is cherished ... they all motivate me to live life king size (even though some people might be really jealous).

It's been almost a week I have been working out of home due to the issues with my cervical & it is still not coming back to normal. I am having fever (something I really hate). Some of my acquaintances claim working from home to be a real cool benefit that my employer provides. I always tell them that working from home is not as exciting as they might feel.

While there are benefits -

Flexibility to select one's won hours

Reduced costs (that's one of the benefits for the employer)

Reduced Travel (if you stay far away or face a lot of traffic)

There are concerns also -

One of the most important aspect of professional life that I miss is Networking. You cant meet a lot of people in your organisation and form a rapport with them. Business networking is essential so that you are aware of whom to reach in case you need help. But, you wont come to know them all sitting at home.

Loneliness is another concern for social butterflies. They can find it real difficult to work for long hours sitting in front of computer without seeing others.

Discipline is prime. When at home you tend to get distracted by a lot of things e.g. door bells, cooking, family members etc. All the minor disturbances add to your work hours. One minute of distraction takes 10 mins of re-consideration of the task you are working at. So, while at home one needs to be very disciplined about the work hours.

A lot many people tend to work 12 - 14 hours a day when working from home thereby building a lot of stress on themselves. This, finally reduces their performance. They feel they are working 12 hours a day but the results are not very good. Make a schedule that helps you DE-stress and perform at optimal level.

Do you have the right set up for the home office ??
This probably is the top most factor before considering working from home. Appropriate work area is necessary. It should be isolated (where you are not disturbed frequently). High speed Internet connection, appropriate desk etc are mandatory if you plan to work 7 - 8 hours from your home office.

Training & Skill Development

is another very important area of concern. While we can advocate that trainings can be taken online but honestly some trainings are better taken in classroom environment. For such functional or behavioral trainings in person interactions are the best. Online trainings might not be that effective.

If you are working from home totally then there can be a stagnation in acquisition of new skills and trainings. You might have questions that are not resolved virtually.

Want to be myself now !!

Life has been quite surprising lately. Things that I valued have changed and my priorities took a U-turn. A lot many times I am criticised for my bold outlook towards life. I would laugh, play, gossip and meet people which apparently is not what is expected out of a woman at my age. Hurts!! in fact a lot.

I have my own morals, my own beliefs and I want to live these. Not just blindly follow the rules society had created ages back due to some reasons that might not even exist now.

People call me immature, some say I have attitude, make me feel so trivial that sometimes all I think about is: "Why? Am I so bad?” I don’t get a reply because my mind is not in a state to decide rather it’s more under shock.

I want to live life on my own terms and till the time I am a major as per the constitution I have the right to live my life the way I want too. Then why all these names?? Why all that back biting? Why would someone say I pretend being nice while I am not?? Why should someone say I believe in dog fights when I don’t ??

I am not liable to answer everyone in the world. In fact I have the right to decide what I answer and what I don’t. Then why ask me for explanations always? Y not accept me as I am ... Good, Bad or Ugly ... it’s me!!

The burden of all these is so huge that it is resulting in physical manifestation of emotional dilemma...

Oh my birthday ..... !! :)

Kanta auntie from my neighbourhood has found this infamous blog of mine & has dialed 100 times in two days to tell that she is impatiently waiting for me to update it with the details of my birthday. Thankfully, she did not catch hold of my diary .... (has not been updated for several years now)

So, my dearies here I am back with the "Gup-Shup (Gossip) online" .... your only chance to peep into my life... so keep reading ... !!

God probably has given me one of the most decent gifts this birthday (i.e. the promotion). Yes, the applez of mah eyez .. I have got a promotion as of 01 March 2009. And this my dearies called for a dual celebration. What?? Did you ask about the first reason to celebrate ?? It was certainly my birthday on 03 March 2009. And since you asked I am very sure you forgot to wish me even ... now don't send me a belated wish for this year. I am already very upset with you ....... oh! ho not you .. you toh wished me on my birthday na?

Like every year, I took my yearly off to celebrate my birthday ... I along with my fiancee had decided to go to the amusement park. But, as always my fiancee got extremely busy in his highly confidential & urgent work. Not willing to spend the day at home I decided to go for a Swedish massage therapy (actually have been suffering from an hormonal disorder for over a month now) ... threw a lot of tantrums that made my kuchi koo fiancee rush to meet me ..... so we went to 32nd milestone for some Go-Carting, Air Rifle Shooting and bowling!

But even before it was half day ... I caught fever (sob! sob!) & we had to return home where I spent two days on bed recovering. Oh! What a boring thing to happen. So, I spent rest of the day thinking about my new achievement and how I am gonna work hard to face new challenges (jst love them) and responsibilities (cant live without them).

I have even prepared a long list of names I need to thank for my recent success and I am planning to bombard everyone in Office with this Oscar like speech very soon ...

And i thank my dog, my best friend , kanta aunt and everyone else reading this blog for their contributions towards making this blog so infamous that I could scribble every damn thing and just get away with it !!

hehehe ... time to catch some sleep ... now you stop reading and leave a comment!!

Alone !!

Sitting alone in my office working on my laptop I realise how lonely I am today. There is absolutely no one around me. Everyone is working from home due to one reason or the other. For me my dearies, this possibly is the most dreadful experience in life - when I do not have anyone around me. But, it is good as it made me realise one major change that had come inside me over the years. Situations in life have finally transformed me into a "People's Person" - someone who thrives on interactions with others.

(Sighs & puts on some music)Trrrrrrig! Trrrrrrring! the phone rings. One of my very old friends called up to catch up on time. I spend some 10 minutes on the phone yapping with the oldie frendie !! Went back to the good old school days. Oh! it was fun.

Coming back, Being a "People's person" is not quite easy. One really has to let go off ego, attitude and at times self-respect too. Its hard but not unachiveable. But, problem starts when this becomes your lifestyle. You spend hours helping people, trying to bring a smile on their faces, taking interest in their lives & emotions, trying to be the trusted one for the biggest secrets. But, deep down somewhere you yourself feel something is missing. A void that you never understand.

Today, sitting here in this lonely room I feel how no one is cared about me. The yapping web gossiper inside of me is silent and in malencholy trying to understand the strange ways of people!! (Sighs & starts working on Laptop) ....

Dev D - Emotional Atyaachar!!

Hey my coochie coo's ! I must tell you my personal views about the "Emotional Atyaachar" that I went thru while watching "Dev D" - so called modern devdas!! Huh ! Was he a devdas of any sort??

Full of ego, revenge, agression etc etc and blah blah ... It is all about lust my baby!! Honestly if you truely love someone, you wont brush her off the shoulder just like that. Chilhood frenship and no trust?? Seems pointlesss to meeee .....

Apna abhay has definitly done a cool job in the movie ... jst adore his acting skills. I always knew he was a good actor way back he started his career with "soocha na tha" ... His choice of movies is something I reaaaaaaaaly adore.

Now about the Emosnal Atyaachar (according to my firang maid its some kind of aachar / pickel :-P). Camera man has done a good job while shooting every scene. Honeslty, my applets (i.e. shorty of applez of my eyes) when you see the movie you would be reminded of various headlines over the years - DPS Case to be the most obvious one. Next comes the Nanda BMW case ... man how can you jst mix and match so much in one go ???? And then some touches of the older devdas (esp. the starting) .... phew! and the movie was made.

Second half of the movie was a total overdose I kept looking at my watch thinking - "Hey Bhagwaaan ye atyaachar band karo ab ... bahut hua wahi same galiyo mein ghoomna wahi daru aur wahi chanda .... ab toh kuch nya karo ...."

It is not emotional, not even a time pass but lays somewhere inbetween ... so go watch it but beware of the second half my dearieeeeeees........

Marley & Me !!

I thought I would spend a few minutes writing about this book (has become my personal favorite since I read it). Any dog lover would be able to identify with the pace and list of events that author speaks about. A simple script made magical with the sheer skill of story telling. A story of a young couple who adopt a dog for the sake of testing their parental skills but ultimately the dog becomes a critical part of their lives.

Marley the dog is simply a maniac who has the courage to do what he decides. So much of an inspiration to live life on your terms. He is a bundle of joy to read about. So naughty and yet so lovable. One moment he would be understanding and another moment he would become completely free soul. Nothing he would be scared off except the storms !! Kinda psychologically dysfunctional doggie but still a sweet heart.

If you have ever had a dog who died in front of your eyes or was stolen then you know all the heart ache that is associated with raring a dog. As I went through the book I came closer to my dog as I realised all the qualities he has despite of his snobbish behavior (that gets over my head at times). His love, loyalty and understanding along with his selfless attitude is something that makes me adore him day in day out.

Someone who waits for me to come back home after a long day at office and is all head over heels upon seeing me every evening. The way he expresses his emotions through eyes. Appears we have a bond that is hard to break. I had tears in my eyes when I read about the problems Marley faced during his old age. Not that I was deeply involved in the story but I was reflecting my over-energetic, psychotic doggie as I read and the mare mention of him expiring in another decade made my heart ache. Probably!! This is what true love is !!

Slum Dog Millionaire

My fitness freak brother and I recently watched "Slumdog Millionaire". Though he is really impressed with the movie; I have some alternate ideas as always. Possibly my taste of movies is a slightly different from others.

It is just a normal script that goes into back flash to find out how a person who serves tea at a call centre knew all the answers? As Champa my cook says - " Hum Anpaad Log Kya Jaane". For those who are not from a Hindi background I would translate what my cook says - "We illiterate & small people know nothing". However, this script had nothing that could have glued me to the seat after 30 minutes. The moment they revealed where Jamal (the protagonist) knew the answer to first question; It was all. I knew somewhere inside me that okay so this is how he knew everything. Smart Chap!! With this the whole excitement fizzled out!! Slumdog Millionaire became an average movie for me.

Bringing my revolutionary thoughts on table, I would coincide with what Mr. Bacchan said after watching the movie. This is not the only India we want to showcase at an international level - Slums, Crime, Prostitution, Kids fooling tourists at various locations to earn their bread and butter. If that is the kind of India we present to others then do you my dearies think that tourists would be comfortable inside the country?? With pre-built notions like this - "how hospitable would we be considered at an international level".

Melzoo: Search the Split Screen !!

My chatterbox soul forced the thinking capacities of my knees when I read and over-read Angie's blog. The spark inside me ignited and the devilish web gossiper took over me! His blog had some fantastic piece of news that the apples of my eyeeezzz must know.

Finally, there is an end to the bugging opening and closing of all the websites while searching for a piece of information. Thanks to Gannu Bhaiya! someone did actually use the preview panel more constructively.

Melzoo is probably the first split screen search engine (though still in testing phase). The graphics are not all that great but frankly that is not all that matters to me. I can adjust to a font size 20 - 24 (may be larger) for typing the search criteria.

By the way did you know, I have some foreign territory's by my name? My self-obssession is taking me places dearies. Trying to challenge the search capabilities of my latest heart-throb (melzoo search) I typed my name as the search criteria. And wellah! dhrrrrrr ! it happened ... I saw so many results. Pages and pages by my name. Oh! this was so damn touching. Still cant believe this.

The best part was coming across a wiki site by my name. Oh! I never knew my name was of such historical importance. I feel like one of those eminent figures of the past - Chanakya (my personal favorite). To furthur show off, my fictitious importance and to beat my own drums yet another time - there is a football club & school by my name. Umm! now I understand my strange attraction towards soccer. I had actually miscommunicated a frenzzz hobby by saying - "He participates in soccer matches" while the truth was "He plays squash". Oh! my wiered interests.

My sweethearts, try this fun search engine now and see for yourself! What thrill it can bring to your online life. I do not have to tell you how thrilled I am ... surely gonna visit all the places by my name in this life!!

And once you have tested dont forget to tell me how you feel about it by using the comment feature below .. and click follow this blog link towards right immediately !!

Signin Off .... Ciao ... Thank you ! Angie ... U rock !!

Back wid a Bang !!

Oh my dearies, how I missed you all these years. You wont believe our very own lovable God Ji had snatched away my skills for all these days ; Should thank him for returning my “high in demand” creativity.

My stomach would start aching and the knees would stop generating ideas if I did not tell you about the magic that reunited us. I was on our very own FB socializing like always with near and dear ones; when I clicked the link to my friend’s blog “the-mommies …. “. She has the easiest & quickest recipe to cook “Ajwain e Chicken”. Neighborhoods Kannu aunty was so impressed by the recipe that she insisted I left a comment on the blog or she would disclose my new phone number to my ex-boy friend. Phew! so much to escape that possessive maniac.

With God Ji’s grace to save my current lovey-dovey committed relationship; I tried commenting on the blog. But blogger website swore to not let me in until I created a login Id. Fortunately; I used my Gmail Id. Poof! It happened.

The Blogger Santa opened my old blog connected to the email. My coochie coo blog was in heart breaking condition. I ransacked the whole oldie bloggy to read those ever motivating comments from all. But, no luck; Past 3 years had not only added to my age and weight but taken away my jiggery poo’s.

With Gannu Bhaiya’s (our very own Ganesha Ji) blessings I am transforming the oldie blog into a rocking sensation to connect again with my sugar plumps. So, you my dear heart who has survived the high in action talk till now are requested to mark this in your favorites & leave a comment by making use of the links below.

Ciao …