Only If ..... You loved me back !!

Wellah! I'm back.. with another hot topic of discussion. And this time I'm sure that Kanta Aunty / Gannu Bhaiya can not provide any advise on this one !!

At some point of time each one of us have faced the stress of falling in love or having a crush on someone who is unattainable - he / she is a movie star or married or already in a relationship or simply not interested. Honestly, I've gone through this so many times now that I think there is something wrong with me !! Thanx to Gannu bhaiya for his approach with God Ji that I get over these quickly.

There are many people who really cant get over it as quickly as I do. Take the case of our Haalla's daughter; Kaalini Haalla. Everything was fine till the time she covered the wall's of her room with Bollywood Dude - John Abraham (who himself feels like a meat shop). She replaced bips with herself in all the pictures & started the 16 Somvaar (Monday) ka fast with an hope to please our Gannu Bhaiya's dad. Finally, when after 16 Monday's John forgot to land on the terrace of her appartments in Delhi; She ran to Mumbai with our Shammu Kaka's (the milkman's)grandson to rescue him from Bips in person.

Fortunately, not every tale is as dramatic as Miss. Kaalini Haalla's. Many of us get depressed with an hope to get over the person of our desire. however, it is not as difficult as it appears to be. The key to getting over this stress is to accept that you are in love with someone who can not reciprocate your feelings. Enjoy this feeling as far as it is healthy but dont let it reach a point where you have to slit your nerves or run from your home to get the person.

Understand that it is not essential to get the one you love. Rather love at times means letting go.

Dont follow that person like a shadow or keep calling him / her. Rather give him / her the freedom to decide if they want to communicate with you.

Pick up new hobbies - Swimming, Reading, Dancing anything as far as it keeps you busy but dont lock yourself up in your room as it would make the condition worse.

Never avoid your feelings howsoever painful they are "Face Them"

Make new friends / Go out with old ones

Dont blame yourself for anything that is not in your hands

I had a huge crush on Mr. X who initially was a good friend but the day I told this Mr. X about my feelings. He stopped calling up, picking my calls, replying my messages and became totally passive. This is where I decided that I need to be less active to help him decide if he wants to communicate with me. Today, we still know each other he does pick my calls and replies my SMS (though he always act Mr. Pricey); I do get irriated and feel like banging his head on the wall but then I have adjusted to the fact that "He wants to be a lone wolf"

Always remember - "It is just a state of mind". What you think / feel about the person does not bind him / her to adhere to your desires."

Peace,
Agony Aunt :P

Working from home !!

My Dearies, I am not in the best of health while creating this post. But as you all know I am addicted to my blog & its readers like the Bee on flowers. You just cant forget them !! All the support that I receive from each one of you via the comments is cherished ... they all motivate me to live life king size (even though some people might be really jealous).

It's been almost a week I have been working out of home due to the issues with my cervical & it is still not coming back to normal. I am having fever (something I really hate). Some of my acquaintances claim working from home to be a real cool benefit that my employer provides. I always tell them that working from home is not as exciting as they might feel.

While there are benefits -

Flexibility to select one's won hours

Reduced costs (that's one of the benefits for the employer)

Reduced Travel (if you stay far away or face a lot of traffic)

There are concerns also -

One of the most important aspect of professional life that I miss is Networking. You cant meet a lot of people in your organisation and form a rapport with them. Business networking is essential so that you are aware of whom to reach in case you need help. But, you wont come to know them all sitting at home.

Loneliness is another concern for social butterflies. They can find it real difficult to work for long hours sitting in front of computer without seeing others.

Discipline is prime. When at home you tend to get distracted by a lot of things e.g. door bells, cooking, family members etc. All the minor disturbances add to your work hours. One minute of distraction takes 10 mins of re-consideration of the task you are working at. So, while at home one needs to be very disciplined about the work hours.

A lot many people tend to work 12 - 14 hours a day when working from home thereby building a lot of stress on themselves. This, finally reduces their performance. They feel they are working 12 hours a day but the results are not very good. Make a schedule that helps you DE-stress and perform at optimal level.

Do you have the right set up for the home office ??
This probably is the top most factor before considering working from home. Appropriate work area is necessary. It should be isolated (where you are not disturbed frequently). High speed Internet connection, appropriate desk etc are mandatory if you plan to work 7 - 8 hours from your home office.

Training & Skill Development

is another very important area of concern. While we can advocate that trainings can be taken online but honestly some trainings are better taken in classroom environment. For such functional or behavioral trainings in person interactions are the best. Online trainings might not be that effective.

If you are working from home totally then there can be a stagnation in acquisition of new skills and trainings. You might have questions that are not resolved virtually.