MOBILE O PHRENIA

Oh my googlie coo's !! I am so sorry for not keeping in touch all these days. Actually, i had been accessing the globe on the mini-screen (mah mobile). This left me disconnected to all of my near and dear ones. Lots of timez I thot about writing to you all but then my work schedule left me no time to catch up with you all.

Honestly I have become the member of "Mobile-O-Phrenix" group. Typically characteristics of these people are as follows:

Checking there mobile screens every few minutes to ensure they have not missed any important email / sms / call

Tend to ignore the real human beings around them by giving more importance to their mobile screens

During discussions their attention span would be inter-mitten

Mobiles become and extension of their body

Every second of the day is spend either looking at screen / typing an sms / reading an sms / browsing GPRS / replying calls

In short, all these people (including me) think about is the life inside their mobile phones. Mobile phones are inevitable part of their lives.

They show withdrawal symptoms if their mobile phone is taken away for the shortest span of time (say 30 mins)

यार हम पहले भी तोह मोबाइल के बिना रहते थे ना । फिर अब क्या हुआ ??

I recently recognised that I was suffering with these symptoms when I met one of my friends over coffee। While he was trying to talk and catch up on lost time I was looking at my mobile screen taking account of the time and replying to my messages. He stopped over for a while and said - "Can't you see I am trying to strike a converstation here."

Honestly, I was so embarrased that I immediately thought of making a बाहाना and running away from that place. And you know guys itz getting worse -

When I am free I hav dis urge of sending a quick message to anyone in my list jst to strike a conversation

If that sum1 doesnt reply back in stipulated time frame of 30 seconds then I get irritated... think गर्रर! ख़ुद को समझता क्या है । भाव खा राहा है । अब कभी message नही करूंगी ।

I become so desparate without mah phone -

1. I need it while reading
2. While watching TV
3. While working

Most of all I need it while I am sleeping. I get up at night and look at my mobile screen to check any late night messages !! Oh Gannu bhaiya ... save me I have got "Mobile-O-Phrenia".

Only If ..... You loved me back !!

Wellah! I'm back.. with another hot topic of discussion. And this time I'm sure that Kanta Aunty / Gannu Bhaiya can not provide any advise on this one !!

At some point of time each one of us have faced the stress of falling in love or having a crush on someone who is unattainable - he / she is a movie star or married or already in a relationship or simply not interested. Honestly, I've gone through this so many times now that I think there is something wrong with me !! Thanx to Gannu bhaiya for his approach with God Ji that I get over these quickly.

There are many people who really cant get over it as quickly as I do. Take the case of our Haalla's daughter; Kaalini Haalla. Everything was fine till the time she covered the wall's of her room with Bollywood Dude - John Abraham (who himself feels like a meat shop). She replaced bips with herself in all the pictures & started the 16 Somvaar (Monday) ka fast with an hope to please our Gannu Bhaiya's dad. Finally, when after 16 Monday's John forgot to land on the terrace of her appartments in Delhi; She ran to Mumbai with our Shammu Kaka's (the milkman's)grandson to rescue him from Bips in person.

Fortunately, not every tale is as dramatic as Miss. Kaalini Haalla's. Many of us get depressed with an hope to get over the person of our desire. however, it is not as difficult as it appears to be. The key to getting over this stress is to accept that you are in love with someone who can not reciprocate your feelings. Enjoy this feeling as far as it is healthy but dont let it reach a point where you have to slit your nerves or run from your home to get the person.

Understand that it is not essential to get the one you love. Rather love at times means letting go.

Dont follow that person like a shadow or keep calling him / her. Rather give him / her the freedom to decide if they want to communicate with you.

Pick up new hobbies - Swimming, Reading, Dancing anything as far as it keeps you busy but dont lock yourself up in your room as it would make the condition worse.

Never avoid your feelings howsoever painful they are "Face Them"

Make new friends / Go out with old ones

Dont blame yourself for anything that is not in your hands

I had a huge crush on Mr. X who initially was a good friend but the day I told this Mr. X about my feelings. He stopped calling up, picking my calls, replying my messages and became totally passive. This is where I decided that I need to be less active to help him decide if he wants to communicate with me. Today, we still know each other he does pick my calls and replies my SMS (though he always act Mr. Pricey); I do get irriated and feel like banging his head on the wall but then I have adjusted to the fact that "He wants to be a lone wolf"

Always remember - "It is just a state of mind". What you think / feel about the person does not bind him / her to adhere to your desires."

Peace,
Agony Aunt :P

Working from home !!

My Dearies, I am not in the best of health while creating this post. But as you all know I am addicted to my blog & its readers like the Bee on flowers. You just cant forget them !! All the support that I receive from each one of you via the comments is cherished ... they all motivate me to live life king size (even though some people might be really jealous).

It's been almost a week I have been working out of home due to the issues with my cervical & it is still not coming back to normal. I am having fever (something I really hate). Some of my acquaintances claim working from home to be a real cool benefit that my employer provides. I always tell them that working from home is not as exciting as they might feel.

While there are benefits -

Flexibility to select one's won hours

Reduced costs (that's one of the benefits for the employer)

Reduced Travel (if you stay far away or face a lot of traffic)

There are concerns also -

One of the most important aspect of professional life that I miss is Networking. You cant meet a lot of people in your organisation and form a rapport with them. Business networking is essential so that you are aware of whom to reach in case you need help. But, you wont come to know them all sitting at home.

Loneliness is another concern for social butterflies. They can find it real difficult to work for long hours sitting in front of computer without seeing others.

Discipline is prime. When at home you tend to get distracted by a lot of things e.g. door bells, cooking, family members etc. All the minor disturbances add to your work hours. One minute of distraction takes 10 mins of re-consideration of the task you are working at. So, while at home one needs to be very disciplined about the work hours.

A lot many people tend to work 12 - 14 hours a day when working from home thereby building a lot of stress on themselves. This, finally reduces their performance. They feel they are working 12 hours a day but the results are not very good. Make a schedule that helps you DE-stress and perform at optimal level.

Do you have the right set up for the home office ??
This probably is the top most factor before considering working from home. Appropriate work area is necessary. It should be isolated (where you are not disturbed frequently). High speed Internet connection, appropriate desk etc are mandatory if you plan to work 7 - 8 hours from your home office.

Training & Skill Development

is another very important area of concern. While we can advocate that trainings can be taken online but honestly some trainings are better taken in classroom environment. For such functional or behavioral trainings in person interactions are the best. Online trainings might not be that effective.

If you are working from home totally then there can be a stagnation in acquisition of new skills and trainings. You might have questions that are not resolved virtually.

Want to be myself now !!

Life has been quite surprising lately. Things that I valued have changed and my priorities took a U-turn. A lot many times I am criticised for my bold outlook towards life. I would laugh, play, gossip and meet people which apparently is not what is expected out of a woman at my age. Hurts!! in fact a lot.

I have my own morals, my own beliefs and I want to live these. Not just blindly follow the rules society had created ages back due to some reasons that might not even exist now.

People call me immature, some say I have attitude, make me feel so trivial that sometimes all I think about is: "Why? Am I so bad?” I don’t get a reply because my mind is not in a state to decide rather it’s more under shock.

I want to live life on my own terms and till the time I am a major as per the constitution I have the right to live my life the way I want too. Then why all these names?? Why all that back biting? Why would someone say I pretend being nice while I am not?? Why should someone say I believe in dog fights when I don’t ??

I am not liable to answer everyone in the world. In fact I have the right to decide what I answer and what I don’t. Then why ask me for explanations always? Y not accept me as I am ... Good, Bad or Ugly ... it’s me!!

The burden of all these is so huge that it is resulting in physical manifestation of emotional dilemma...

Oh my birthday ..... !! :)

Kanta auntie from my neighbourhood has found this infamous blog of mine & has dialed 100 times in two days to tell that she is impatiently waiting for me to update it with the details of my birthday. Thankfully, she did not catch hold of my diary .... (has not been updated for several years now)

So, my dearies here I am back with the "Gup-Shup (Gossip) online" .... your only chance to peep into my life... so keep reading ... !!

God probably has given me one of the most decent gifts this birthday (i.e. the promotion). Yes, the applez of mah eyez .. I have got a promotion as of 01 March 2009. And this my dearies called for a dual celebration. What?? Did you ask about the first reason to celebrate ?? It was certainly my birthday on 03 March 2009. And since you asked I am very sure you forgot to wish me even ... now don't send me a belated wish for this year. I am already very upset with you ....... oh! ho not you .. you toh wished me on my birthday na?

Like every year, I took my yearly off to celebrate my birthday ... I along with my fiancee had decided to go to the amusement park. But, as always my fiancee got extremely busy in his highly confidential & urgent work. Not willing to spend the day at home I decided to go for a Swedish massage therapy (actually have been suffering from an hormonal disorder for over a month now) ... threw a lot of tantrums that made my kuchi koo fiancee rush to meet me ..... so we went to 32nd milestone for some Go-Carting, Air Rifle Shooting and bowling!

But even before it was half day ... I caught fever (sob! sob!) & we had to return home where I spent two days on bed recovering. Oh! What a boring thing to happen. So, I spent rest of the day thinking about my new achievement and how I am gonna work hard to face new challenges (jst love them) and responsibilities (cant live without them).

I have even prepared a long list of names I need to thank for my recent success and I am planning to bombard everyone in Office with this Oscar like speech very soon ...

And i thank my dog, my best friend , kanta aunt and everyone else reading this blog for their contributions towards making this blog so infamous that I could scribble every damn thing and just get away with it !!

hehehe ... time to catch some sleep ... now you stop reading and leave a comment!!